The Station Wagon podcast: Seattle - Snoqualmie - Olympia: Episode 20: Giving up Interrupting

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Episode 20: Giving up Interrupting

In this episode we gave up interrupting. We stopped, as best we could, throwing our conversation partners off their thought-tracks with our own questions and comments. As Covey says in Habit #5: "Seek first to understand, then be understood". Spoiler alert: we found that yelling is a great way to interrupt, but not so good at attaining that understanding part; who knew?



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History


1876
Robert's rules of order written by Henry Martyn Roberts to make meetings proceed smoothly and making decisions as a group.

Permitted Interruptions:
Once a member is recognized by the chair and is allowed to debate a motion or address the assembly in any way, then that member has the right to not be interrupted.
However, under the following situations any member has the right to interrupt the speaker. The interruption does not require a second or a vote!
  • No motion: If a member starts to discuss a subject without a motion on the floor - interrupt him.
  • Long speech: Every society specifies how long a member may speak. If a member violates this rule - interrupt him.
  • Agenda calls for a Special Order: If a member is speaking and it is time for a scheduled Special Order - interrupt him.
  • Question of Privilege: If a member is speaking when you or the society need something to continue with the meeting (open a window, shut a door, move an obstacle, request more handouts, dim the lights, etc.) - interrupt him.
  • Point of Order: If an order is being violated (item on agenda skipped; adopted a motion with majority vote when 2/3 is required; adopted a motion to spend in violation of the budget, etc.) - interrupt him.
  • Rowdy Member: If a member is speaking or behaving in a fashion unacceptable to your society's standard Call the Member to Order - interrupt him.
  • Too many motions in one: If a member moves a motion that is clearly more than one motion lumped together - interrupt him.
  • Parliamentary Inquiry: If you have a question related to parliamentary procedure while a member is speaking - interrupt him.
  • Point of Information: If you have a question of the officers or a committee chair, before you can decide how to proceed and a member is speaking - interrupt him.


(Ref) & (Ref)
1936--1948
Olympics Interrupted by WWII.
(ref)
1954
Lord of the Flies is Published by Author William Golding, and the humble conch will never be used the same again.
1957

Carl Rogers publishes his work on Active Listening. The concepts came out of his work on “Person Centered” therapy.

(ref)
2006
“All of Louis thoughts are very important to him. In fact, his thoughts are so important to him that when he has something to say, his words begin to wiggle, and then they do the jiggle, then his tongue pushes all of his important words up against his teeth and he erupts, or interrupts others. His mouth is a volcano! My Mouth Is A Volcano takes an empathetic approach to the habit of interrupting and teaches children a witty technique to capture their rambunctious thoughts and words for expression at an appropriate time.”
2008
Mary Moo (3 year old) tell the joke on Youtube. And children everywhere follow her guru-ship to become interrupting menaces. More info about the joke: Uncyclopedia Reference
2009
Kanye West interrupts Taylor Swift as she is giving her acceptance speech for best female video. From Kanye, ““Yo Taylor, I’m really happy for you , I’m going to let you finish but Beyonce had one of the best videos of all time…one of the best of all time!” The audience then booed him until MTV cut to a clip.”
2016
Pebbles, the cutest puppy in the world, interrupts our lives with the glory that is puppy chaos.

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